anghara (anghara) wrote,

I have a guest blog for you -

- if you've ever wondered what it must be like to LIVE with a writer, here's my Other Half on the matter. rdeck and I will be celebrating our tenth wedding anniversary next summer - so SOMETHING is going right...

Have a read - and swing past his own blog to check it out if you're so inclined...


I have the greatest job in the world -- I'm the spouse of a writer.

I am Mr. Alma Alexander, aka Deck Deckert.

Mind you, this wasn't really my dream career choice, but after I
retired from newspapering and freelancing, I met an exciting woman
online, fell in love, and asked her to give up her comfortable life
in New Zealand to come to the US to marry me. She did -- and my life
changed in astonishing ways.

When I proposed (in ICQ chat), I promised two things:

1) I would serve her coffee in bed every morning
2) I'd do all the cooking and cleaning

The first turned out to be self-serving because before she's had her
coffee, Alma is ... well, let's just say, I never forget the coffee.

The second was because we both expected she'd have to get a job to
supplement my meager retirement income.

But we had a few months grace and Alma used the time to write. Now I
knew she dabbled in writing, but then, so did I. No big thing.

Wrong. Alma doesn't dabble in writing, it's her life. When she gets
involved in world building, everything else fades away. It takes time
and effort, creativity and imagination, and concentration.

A few months after we got married, she was working on her laptop when
I came into our office.

"What are you doing?" I asked.

"I'll show you in a minute."

And a short time later, she did. She handed me a one-page printout
containing 10 paragraphs, each a brief description of a character.

"What's this?"

"My new novel."

"What's it about?"

"I have no idea."

"I hate you," she claims that I said, which is probably true because
I had learned after long trial and error that writing fiction is not my thing.

In very short order, a few months, the 10 paragraphs became a 200,000
word novel, The Secrets of Jin-shei, and my life changed beyond imagining.

To begin with, while the book was being written, I shared my bed
every night with several women. It turned out, that her characters
weren't always content to wait in the office until Alma returned.
I've become used to Alma's characters interrupting our conversations
and our lives at sometimes inopportune times.

I wouldn't have it any other way.
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